Is It A Good Idea To Tell A Married Man Your Dating Stories To Set Boundaries?
1 July 2009
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I have told him my dating stories so he will realize I’m not into him. That way it sets boundaries between both of us, since we do both seem to have an attraction towards each other. Is this a good idea & will it set boundaries between both of us? Thx.
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Sorry, but please explain to me how sharing intimate life stories such as your dating history is setting “boundaries”? It seems like the complete and total opposite to me. In all honesty, if you want to set boundaries, you’ll simply restrict any and all inappropriate contact with him (such as talking to him in this way), and telling him plainly that you’re not interested in taking it any further. Sorry but I think any guy would assume from you telling personal stories like that that you’re interested since you’re sharing intimate and personal past experiences.
i think it’s best to set the boundaries by telling him everything straight up, not by playing games or hoping he will get the clue. he might not or he will pretend he didn’t and can later tell you that you didn’t tell him you didn’t want anything. if he hears the actual words he won’t be able to say that.
i was in a similar situation, but i wasn’t attracted to the guy i thought might want more than friendship, so i told him in a polite way that i’m not interested in anything more than friendship, that he’s a great guy and all but that’s it (he’s married too). we cleared it out and now i feel much more relaxed around him because i have made myself clear and don’t have to worry about sending out the wrong signals or anything
I’m confused you say you are dating a married man. Then you say you aren’t really in to him and want to set boundaries. Haven’t you pretty much already crossed all boundaries by dating a man you know is married. Are you trying to rationalize to yourself that what you’re doing is OK because you’re trying to ’set boundaries.’
How about you stop beating around the bush. Just come out and state the boundaries. Like….I have someone. I am not interested in starting an affair. I know you feel the attraction between us but I will never act on them and if you do we can no longer be friends. State the facts right out in the open then you will not get yourself into a situation you will not want to be in later.
NO, it’s not good to tell your dating stories. That is a sign of immaturity and lack of integrity.
If you want someone to know something then tell them straight out. No games!
I don’t think your right. All you had to do is tell him your not interested and keep his distance. It sounds like your crowing out your tales of adventures. Cool it.
How about talking about your bf. That should set a boundary. Even if you don’t have one, consider making one up just to draw that line.
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