Was Recently Dumped After 2 Dates With Girl. Is It Wise To Jump Back On The Horse And Start Online Dating?
28 December 2009
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I hate this feeling i have right now. My ego is shot, so is my confidence. I would like to go out with new people. Is online dating a good idea? Anyone have any success with it? I need to move on…just dont know how. Thanks.
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Andre- Hey, logged on to my fiance’s computer. I have actually had success with online dating. . . met her through an online dating site. So, yeah, success is possible.
Hear you on the ego and confidence being shot. You DEFINITELY don’t want to do the pathetic guy thing where you go back to the girl who dumped you and start asking what you did wrong, yadda, yadda. You went on two dates, it didn’t work out, need to make a clean break from that one. Here is the deal with going straight back into dating online OR offline when you’re feeling like this. The sad, negative attitude isn’t sexy. And even if you try and hide it women are too good at feeling these things out, and they aren’t going to dig it b/c (as my fiance says) women get scared they’re going to have to play relationship counselor all night instead of meeting a great guy and going on a great date. So here is what you might want to do. Yes, I know this is going to sound super cheesy, but it’s online and nobody will ever know if you really do this or not so give it a chance (I learned this from my girl and I SWEAR it works). Make a list of all the positive things you can think of about yourself. If you’re in a slump, write down small stuff, even if it sounds stupid…you could write “good hair” (no one will ever see this). Ok. So you have a list of all these really good, positive qualities about yourself. Look at them until you’re believing in them. Ok, so you’ve reminded yourself you’re a good guy, good catch (yes, this sounds a little girly, but guys have to get over sh*t too).
Ok, so the key to online dating sites is to make sure you are signing up on a site that is already geared towards what you’re looking for. Just wanting casual dating? Looking for something more serious? Now sites where you can sign up free and sign up is fast are going to have the most fake profiles and spam (why? b/c it is fast, and anyone can get a profile in 3 minutes flat). So head towards a site that is geared towards what you’re looking for, and then decide if it is worth paying a little bit of money for the membership fee (for guys it almost always is). Go in with an open mind, and be positive! If you have the sad, desperate vibe people are going to sense that. Don’t worry if you’re getting a ton of hits…just like going out to a bar, or anywhere else, women are used to you doing the initiating. So, write to some women who look like they might be potentials. Don’t freak out if you don’t get something back instantly. Your dating pool just got a whole lot bigger when you do online dating.
Good luck!
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