Comments on: Have You Had An Abortion, How Did It Make You Feel?

By: Athens girl

Athens girl — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 20:01:15 +0000

Adoption is an answer, you don’t have to kill someone because you cannot care for them. Through adoption, they might be able to come back when you are ready. When you kill them, youw ill only feel guilty.

By: alfie harry born 27/06/08

alfie harry born 27/06/08 — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:24:14 +0000

There will be those that judge. There will be those that understand. It’s very chancey to talk about such a private decision in such a public forum, but now that you’ve done it, you’re going to have to take some of the comments with a very large grain of salt.
Abortion is a choice that is legal for you to make, and everyone has their own opinion about the morality of it. You made your choice based on the data available to you at the time. No one can prepare you for how you will feel afterward.
I have heard about having a private ceremony in such a situation…a very private time that you set aside for just you and the soul that would have joined you if you’d kept the baby….take as much time as you need in a quiet spot where you won’t be interupted. Light a candle, create an atmosphere of whatever your spiritual beliefs promote. Focus on the baby and what his/her soul feels like. Then, once you sense the soul’s presence, cry, explain, rail if you need to, ask for that soul’s forgiveness…..express it all….and then wait and see what comes back to you. I have heard it can be a very healing experience.
Blessings to you.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:09:47 +0000

You did the right thing for you at the time. Please don’t feel guilty.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:05:24 +0000

My dear you did what you had to do. It would have been much more cruel later on if you were not ready for the baby (financially and emotionally). Think of it this way; since you care you did not want your baby to have a miserable life. Right now you need to take care of yourself and reach your full potential. Come to peace with your decision and move on. Probably this was an excellent learning experience for you which will make you a better human being and a better mom in future. Good luck!

By: leanne

leanne — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 23:31:02 +0000

its done and you cant go back, i couldnt personally do it seeing a video on you tube made me cry but you did what you had to do! think ahead to providing and gettin a life together for your future children xxx

By: kimmie k

kimmie k — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 18:28:53 +0000

Well….listen…what’s done is done.
I think what will help you move on most is getting it together. Why can you barely look after youself at 22? Why don’t you have a good job? Why isn’t this boyfriend a postive influence? why are you so out of touch with your body that you made it 17 weeks? Why do you believe you would have needed goverment benefits instead if setting your mind to “I can do this, whether I give the baby up or keep him/her”? These are the things in your life which you must now evaluate. You still have a chance to USE this as a learning experience. The only way this will ALL BE IN VAIN IS IF YOU DO NOT LEARN. You need answers to all the questions I asked you, for yourself.
Look in the mirror, and you will find your answers. Let go of the guilt and do what grown-ups do and learn. Reconnect with quality friends and family.

By: computel

computel — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 17:54:37 +0000

Hun, don’t tell people on here, they will only be c****’s about it. If you need somebody to talk to about it make it a family member or friend. You are bound to be in a fragile state right now, so don’t worry about other people’s opinions. You made the decision which was best for you, remember that always, deal with it your own way and move on in your life. x

By: Raven Eyes JPA

Raven Eyes JPA — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 12:35:47 +0000

i cant belive what i read everytime a question or comment comes up in this forum regarding abortion…how can the previous post say that women who have abortions dont deserve children later on in life…we all understand that for some getting pregnant is hard and even worse for some women we all know but you do not know these women so how can people judge.
if the women at the time feels that this is the only option then so be it its her life her body to do this to.
and she may well regret it later on but for some its a well thought through hard time and they have no regrets it was all in there situation at that point in life.
and them that say adoption is an answer what makes you think that a baby given up for adoption would always get a loving home.
if a women makes this decision once in her life it does make her a bad person and espescially does not make her an potential unfit mother to be in future
for the women answering asking this question to begin with
i feel for you really do and pls dont listen to the people on this site preaching there views to you
maybe you should seek profesional help and see your doctor for a bit of support to help you overcome this
you are not a bad person and dont listen to these post
i sometimes wounder where these people come from on here to say what they do
good luck with everything xx

By: mom2anut

mom2anut — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 11:12:40 +0000

Well dont let people tell you adoption is the only answer first of all if I could b* slap thru e-mail I would!!! I also had abortion when I was 25…. I am now 30. I was at a point in my life similar to yours. I just started dating the man I was with at the time, I was even on birth control pills!!! And three months into the relationship I was pregnant. I have a 8 year old daughter already, I was not financially ready for a baby, the guy I was with was freaking out on me , so I had a choice (which all women do) do I want to bring a baby into the world without a father, without financial stability? No I do not! Am I saying it does not haunt me? Oh it does, it was the hardest most difficult decision I have ever made in my life, and the guy and I stayed together up til about a year ago, so I would be a single mom of two?
It sucks bottom line, it is a hard decision and I believe you made the unselfish decision… I know your pain and I feel for you. If you belive in god ask him to help you heal, best of luck to you

By: Mrs. Kav

Mrs. Kav — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 07:31:42 +0000

I did years ago, and on the scale of things it was the right thing to do at the time. Although the pregnancy was planned, what wasnt planned was my partner at the time walking out after the pregnancy was confirmed. Couldnt deal with that. He wanted the abortion, I didnt want to be alone with another kid, already had a child. He was young, I was foolish and it took years to deal with what I had done, but it was the right thing to do. I think about what could have been now and again but I punished myself enough and have moved on. It takes time but you soon weigh up the reasons and deal with it.