How To Stop Yearning For Love?
I am 23 years old. I think I am in a good place in my life right now. I graduated from college a year ago. I love my job and my new place. I have a wonderful family and great friends. BUT. I have been single for 3 years. Some of this time I chose to be single, but most of it was because I never dated anyone who wanted to get in a relationship…at least with me. I wrestled with thinking it was the guys….then it was me….it was the guys…then me. And now I’m just tired and would just really like to meet someone who wants me for me. Its hard tho, I try to go out and enjoy myself and do me. But I never meet anyone worth talking to or if I do, they’re not looking for a relationship. I try and look my best when I go out. And ppl always tell me that I’m really pretty. So I don’t think its my looks. But finding someone is all I think about. I want to stop because they say when you’re not looking for love, it finds you. Its just that loneliness can sometimes get the best of me. Especially since I live alone. Any suggestions on how to stop worrying about having someone? I’ve never been a desperate woman, but its starting to get the best of me now. Any help??
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I think your desperation is showing in your body language.
Relax, you are still very young, and the rest of your life is going great, with your job and family. So instead of concentrating on this one part of your life, let it be.
Don’t worry, it will happen. some day, some where, love is just around the corner, and will hit you when you least expect it. As many songs and poems have been written about that.
Before you can expect someone to love you, you much love yourself.
Just because, you haven’t met Mr Right, right now, doesn’t mean it won’t happen.
Yes loneliness can be a killer, and we all go through that, during periods of our lives. It’s a bit like feast or famine, in that regard.
First off, try just to find a good friend, male or female, that you can spend some fun time with. Doing a movie, lunch or dinner.
Try and appear not so desperate, that sure will scare a lot of guys off.
Just take it as it comes, ask some of your friends, if they know of some guy, you might hit it off with.
When I was your age, I was constantly being set up by family and friends. If you are, then try a few blind dates, who knows, you might hit pay dirt. good luck and don’t give up, you still have a long life ahead of you.
I have read ur entire book of a paragraph. and i have come to the conclusion that all of your problems will be solved if you can answer this one simple question…Why, my friend, is the sky blue??
KARMA KARMA KARMA KARMA
: ] Best of Luck
Honestly, the only way that you’ll get over wanting to be loved is to die. I don’t mean to sound brutal, but it’s true. If you stop seeking love you are either dead physically or emotionally. I can relate to how you feel. Only difference is that I’m almost 35 and have been single for pretty much all of my adult life. It’s hard, I know. I’ve been so depressed about this issue that I’ve actually considered suicide before. Not good. But I’ve gotten out of that mind set. I’ve come to realize a lot about myself and others through these tough times. Number one is, you truly have to be happy and confident with who you are as an individual. This may sound simple, but trust me it is not. Even most people that are in long term relationships haven’t gotten to that point in their life. Everybody says that they want someone that completes them. BS. If you need someone to complete you, you are not a strong person. What you should look for is someone that compliments you. Do you know what I mean? One of the other things that you will hear is that you are “too picky”. BS on that too. Sure I could have been in several relationships, if I wanted to. But I don’t want to waste hers and my time if it really has no potential in being “the one”. From the sounds of it, you might feel the same way. Don’t just hop into a relationship to fill that void, that overwhelming loneliness. Ultimately nothing good would come from it. Ask yourself why so many relationship and marriages go bad. I would bet it was because ( they most likely would never admit it) they got into the relationship because they thought it was what you’re supposed to do or they just didn’t want to be alone. Those are just plain wrong reasons to start a relationship. Cheer up! You are still young and have plenty of time in your life to find that one guy. Personally, if it takes me until I’m fifty or more to find the true love of my life, then so be it. However, never, I mean never, stop looking for love. If you do you might as well climb into that box six feet under. I will open up my profile for contact if you’d like to talk more about this. Good luck and take care.
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