So this is the story..
I am a gay guy, people at work know or think I am gay.. they are really respectful..
There is this guy that sometimes is nice and give big smiles and sometimes looks shy and insecured and would not look directly to my eyes.
He whistles and fidgets everytime I walk near him, specially in the warehouse (which is where his desk is) he would totally start whistling or doing air noises, uncontrollable when I walk by, even if there is no eye contact, even if I am not planning to have a conversation and I am just walking on my way out… I dont know if he is conscious he looks dumb.. but he is loud with his whistles.
anyway.. there was one day I was walking one direction and he was walking to the other.. than all of a sudden I turned back to see him, and he DID THE SAME AT THE SAME TIME… then we both turned away fast nervously
He always walks by my office, looks at me then looks away when I see him, like nervous of being caught, but he keeps doing it again and again. (NON STOP)
When I first started working at the company he would go to my boss, Which is also my best friend, and ask him stuff like the places I go, the type of drinks and music I like ETC. (he doesnt do it aymore, but I think he doesnt want to look suspicious)
I noticed that now he wears cologne (TONNNNNS) he walks by and leaves his smell in the air.. haha I do the same.
I KNOW I KNOW.. THE ANSWER WOULD BE INVITE HIM OUT???
I have invited him out SO MANY TIMES>.. he would fidget look nervous, write my phone down and not call me… I would invite him to parties, I would invite him to straight parties, straight clubs, gay clubs.. I made the move so many times but he wont follow up! I dont ask him for his phone because then I dont want to look like I am harrasing him or anything.
he then would come the next day and asked me HOW WAS IT? I dont know.. maybe trying to be polite for the invitation
this been for 3 years, I noticed all my coworkers men and female are cool everytime they get in my office to ask me for something.. they dont seem insecure or intimidated at all.
We both grew up in really different socioeconomical situation and had different education, maybe he feels shy and I looked like a snub?
He wont talk to me when we are alone, but when someone esle is present, he would then ask me stuff even that is something he already know the answer.. Like trying to start conversation
He is straight, he has a son, single, not married, not attached
some of my other coworkers know him from school, he would never do anything for being afraid that they will find out something?
please no offensive, racist and discriminating answers…
THANKS